Category : Healthful Life Strategies

Written on Jun, 30, 2015 by in ,

The current horrific re-enactments of violence that haunt our dreams and shatter our sense of security, no matter where we live, should be a wake-up call to how we are nurturing the seeds of violence in children. When children are exposed to violence and when their home environments are unsafe they become candidates for violence themselves, vulnerable to the feelings …

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Written on May, 04, 2015 by in ,
serving families of veterans

In surveying the literature on war and its aftermath, including the literature on PTSD, there is virtually nothing about the families of veterans. The families of our veterans are the scapegoats of war. Their story is timeless, but I believe the time has come to tell it. A RAND Corporation study that was initiated by the National Military Families Association reports …

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Written on Mar, 31, 2015 by in
resources for veterans

There a lack of services for the families of veterans. The majority of existing, established services are aimed at veterans and even these, as has been proven, are insufficient. They Were Families: How War Comes Home is being developed to bridge this chasm. In the meanwhile some external outlets can be recommended and I can provide enormous encouragement for how …

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Written on Feb, 17, 2015 by in
emotional numbing

“There is quiet. The quiet when he was gone, away in Afghanistan. Or this new quiet, now, now that he is home.” — Amalie Flynn, Wife and War Silence has multiple textures just as emotional numbing is not only one thing. We have known about emotional numbing for as long as we have known about war, but it is only …

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Written on Jan, 27, 2015 by in
Children of Veterans

When soldiers return home to their families with unresolved wartime experiences in tow, their children, whose sensory systems are porous, see and feel their unarticulated terror and rage. Since families are generally not included in re-entry or transition, which is thoroughly inadequate in any case, children of veterans have no way to sort through what they absorb and hold non-verbally. It …

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Written on Dec, 16, 2014 by in

The simplest definition of respite is that it is an interval of rest or relief. For the partners and family members of veterans returning from war zones or areas of conflict with PTSD or post-combat shock, respite is much more than rest. It is the space to reclaim personal identity and as such, it is a necessary ritual. I grew …

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Written on Nov, 18, 2014 by in

How we function as we age is dependent on many factors both physical and mental. Age-related memory changes are a reality although the changes do not automatically mean some form of dementia is developing. Examples of the many types of memory problems that are common in normal aging, in mild cognitive impairment and in dementia are shown below. Memory Effects …

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Written on Oct, 30, 2014 by in
effects chronic stress

Most people will experience stress at times—physical or mental or both. Generally, two kinds of stress are identified—acute and chronic. Acute stress results from the body’s reaction to a perceived or real immediate threat, often referred to as the “flight or fight” response. Some things that may cause acute stress are noise, crowds, hunger, and physical or emotional trauma. Infection, …

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Written on Oct, 16, 2014 by in

Where do we experience conflict? A cavalier sarcastic response might be, “Where don’t we experience conflict?” (Tweet this quote.) We find conflict everywhere—at home, work, school, among friends, with strangers, and all through life. The experience of conflict knows no geographical boundaries and crosses all language barriers. Clearly, we as a society seem ill equipped to deal successfully with conflict. …

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Written on Oct, 02, 2014 by in

Recently we posted on the value of collaborative cruciverbalism—i.e., solving crossword puzzles with others is an effective tactic for developing creative thinking. In the post we demonstrated the reasons for our belief—the practice involves a lot of our creative thinking strategies (e.g. collaboration, perception shifting, piggybacking) we discuss in Introduction to Applied Creative Thinking (2012). A recent article in the …

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