3 Steps for Honoring and Serving the Families of Veterans

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In surveying the literature on war and its aftermath, including the literature on PTSD, there is virtually nothing about the families of veterans. The families of our veterans are the scapegoats of war. Their story is timeless, but I believe the time has come to tell it. A RAND Corporation study that was initiated by the National Military Families Association reports that military families experience more emotional distress and anxiety than families in the general population. Further, 95% of these families feel that others (outside the military) are unaware of their dilemmas. They are correct. The needs of the families of our veterans are, for the most part, ignored. In particular, their children are not given the support they need to offset the toxic conditions of war that are brought home.

Children Carry the Heavy Burden

The distress in the homes of veterans creates an epigenetic burden that is carried most heavily by children. Investigations into the mechanisms of the intergenerational transmission of trauma reveal that the children of veterans who have seen combat and who have returned from war with PTSD are more prone to violence; are at a higher risk for behavioral, academic and interpersonal problems; have difficulty maintaining friendships; are more likely to have sensory challenges or to be diagnosed with autism; are at higher risk for depression and have difficulty concentrating. Knowing all this, what do we provide to take this burden off the shoulders of children and families? Close to nothing.

Three Steps for Help

Three simple, initial steps can begin to shed light on this shadow.

  1. Education. Informing family members about how war comes home is the critical first step. Parents deserve to understand how they and their children are likely to be negatively impacted by a returning veteran’s PTSD, whether or not it is diagnosed. It is entirely possible to describe the physiological, emotional and developmental consequences that unfold in language that parents can understand.
  2. Resources. This means providing parents with practical tools that they can use for themselves and their children to prevent an escalation and accumulation of the conditions that create traumatic intergenerational transmission. We are fortunate to be living in a time when our enhanced understanding of the neural mechanisms of trauma and its repetition give us the capacity to provide such tools and the support needed to sustain their use.
  3. Family-Centered Transition. The final step involves a larger, more complex vision. This phase suggests that we have the responsibility to develop a structure in which both education and resources are regularly provided to the children and families of our veterans, alongside their transition services. Knowing as much as we do about the likelihood of intergenerational traumatic transmission from war and its consequences in society, it is our responsibility to create appropriate transition services.

They Were Families: How War Comes Home, is a soon-to-be-published book devoted to these three steps. When I discuss these steps with civilians they frequently respond, in all innocence, by saying: “Don’t we already have this?” These three steps are so common-sense, so obviously needed, that the assumption by people who have not investigated this issue is that it has already been taken care of by the powers that be. Surely “they” know this. But there is no “they.” No government or foundation agencies provide this support to our veterans’ families. We must be the “they” that voices this obvious need and advocates for its fulfillment. It is a tall order, but it must be done.

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PhD Stephanie MinesStephanie Mines, Ph.D, is the founder and Program Director of the TARA Approach for the Resolution of Shock and Trauma. She is a founding Board member of Veterans Families United. Along with VFU’s Executive Director, Cynde Collins-Clark, she has created a transition facility design (REST House) for veterans and their family members. Their design is included in Dr. Mines’ forthcoming book They Were Families: How War Comes Home (New Forums Press, 2016). Dr. Mines can be contacted at [email protected].

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Passion for the Profession: Achieving Excellence in Teaching

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As the general managers prepare for that annual athletic rite of passage known as the National Football League Draft, we have noticed that they are starting to pay more attention to something other than the players’ heights, weights, dead lifts, and 40-yard-dash times. Even the NFL is beginning to embrace the rubric of disposition, believing that in pre-draft interviews the college players with the greatest chance of becoming All-Pros are those who display a passion for their vocation. Without a fire in their gut, even professional athletes will have trouble excelling, it seems.

This week’s Bloomberg Businessweek (April 27-May 3, 2015) contains a full-page advertisement for Liberty Mutual. Above a picture of a restaurant owner in bold red and blue letters is the tagline “You have a passion for your business. We have a passion for protecting it.” Passion is seen as necessary for running two businesses.

In a recent issue of The Chronicle of Higher Education (3 April 2015), “The 4 Properties of Powerful Teachers” (A31-2) Rob Jenkins lists a tetralogy of pedagogical traits—“four qualities that all powerful teachers possess”: personality, presence, preparation, and passion. Jenkins concludes that “Of all the qualities that characterize great teachers, this [passion] is the most important, by far. . . . Passion, or love, manifests itself in the classroom in two ways: love for students and love for your subject matter.” (Tweet this quote.)

In Achieving Excellence in Teaching (Stillwater: New Forums, 2014), we go one step farther: “For you to achieve excellence in teaching, your passion must be a tri-fold choice, encompassing the subject, the student, and the very act of teaching” (25). Passion is inspirational. If you love what you are doing, it rubs off on your students. Conversely, if your passion omits one of these three areas, you will achieve less.

What do we mean by passion? “Passion in teaching involves being deeply stirred by a particular area of interest, investing time and energy in its pursuit, and having a strong desire to help others learn about the subject area” (27). Interestingly, despite a societal recognition of the role of passion in advertising, business, sport, and teaching, research into recent 21st-Century teachers confirms they regard teaching as simply a 9-5 job, something you merely punch the clock on. What is going to happen to this generation of students taught with such a vocational mentality? Are they going to be inspired, or are they going to be more trained than educated—future clock-punchers?

Jenkins warns about the dangers of burn-out and of teachers who regale their colleagues with tales of student ineptitude and then wonder why they are not popular. Passion is not a constant. Faculty often enter the profession with this three-fold love, but lose it along the way. We have found that one way to maintain the passion level is to keep on trying new things. Create new courses or new approaches to old courses. Over the course of our careers we invented courses on mystery stories, comic books, and pop culture in general. We came into the profession as teachers of traditional lit, but gradually found another outlet in creative writing. We reinvigorated our department’s course offerings so that at one time 25% of all English majors were in creative writing. We even began a low-residency MFA program in creative writing. And then we switched gears again and became professional developers in the University’s Teaching & Learning Center. Rusty began with one foot in the Department of English & Theatre and the other in the Noel Studio for Academic Creativity, where he serves as director. But that wasn’t enough, so the three of us devised a minor in Applied Creative Thinking, creating all the core courses and writing two textbooks.

Every year in New Faculty Orientation we point out that if you don’t have that tripartite passion, you’re probably in the wrong profession. And every year just as when we were kids and rode our bikes into unexplored territories, we find something new to do—a new course, a new book or article, a new creation like Scholarship Week or the Kentucky Pedagogicon.

And our passion is constantly renewed.

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Author Charlie Sweet EKUCharlie Sweet is currently Co-Director of the Teaching & Learning Center (2007+) at Eastern Kentucky University. Before going over to the dark side of administration, for 37 years he taught American Lit and Creative Writing in EKU’s Department of English & Theatre, where he also served as chair (2003-2006). Collabo-writing with Hal Blythe, he has published well over 1000 items, including 15 books; of his 11 books with New Forums. Meet Charlie.

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Flipping the Classroom, New Book in It Works for Me Series

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Recently, New Forums published the eighth book in our It Works for Me, Flipping the Classroom, and we couldn’t be more excited. Way back in the last century, we began the series with It Works for Me! Shared Tips for Teaching (1998), what we thought of as a one-shot of practical tips. At the time only two of us served as editors (Rusty would join us with the most recent book), and we were primarily professors of English interested in helping our newer colleagues navigate the treacherous tidal waves of tenure, but, realizing we had a few more tips in us, we started issuing an average of a book every other year.

Along the way we began to realize how vast the area of pedagogy is, and we made a major career move, shifting from being mostly professors of creative writing to professional developers co-directing for the University’s newly-created Teaching & Learning Center. We began to publish pieces in such professional forums as the Journal of Faculty Development and learned we were practicing what had become known as the Scholarship of Teaching and learning (SOTL).

In Enhancing Scholarly Work on Teaching & Learning (2006), Maryellen Weimer posits that the field of SOTL is large, running the gamut from practitioner pedagogical scholarship to pure education research. In Weimer’s terms we began our entry into SOTL with the former and moved toward the latter. Our early New Forums books focus mostly on specific experiential tips, but gradually evolved toward more specific domains such as scholarship, creativity, and now the bleeding edge with flipping the classroom. We’ve gotten more specific with a tribute book to our old field, creative writing with Options (2014), while at the same time we tried to sum up recent trends in higher ed research with Achieving Excellence in Teaching (2014).

If one theme other than practical pedagogy emerges in our writing, it’s probably creativity. While we always stressed being a creative instructor, in the past four years we’ve focused on the growing discipline of creative thinking with It Works for Me, Creatively (2011), Introduction to Applied Creative Thinking (2012), and Teaching Applied Creative Thinking (2013). While our newest book on flipping the classroom doesn’t focus on creativity per se, it did result from Bloom’s higher-order thinking skills of applying and creating.

In Introduction to Applied Creative Thinking we present nine basic strategies of creative thinking, beginning with perception shift, which we say “involves looking at a person, idea, or situation from a new perspective” (28). Flipping the classroom stands as an excellent example of practical perception shift. Educators began reflecting on such societal trends as the rise of active learning replacing the sage on the stage, the sudden spurt of technology (especially the Internet), and advances in brain science. One result was the experiment of “flipping” the two major portions of the learning experience, the classroom and “homework.” In simple terms professors began providing what had been their usual classroom lectures along with traditional assignments as the homework portion and utilizing the more limited classroom time for higher-order (Bloom) activities that aided in students’ deep learning.

It Works for Me, Flipping the Classroom (IWFMFTC) focuses on this paradigm shift. The book begins with some essays about transitioning into a flipped classroom, moves to a section on out-of-class assignments, and then lists some in-class activities for the flipper. After a section on electronic resources, the book ends with ever-important ways to assess the effectiveness of the flipped class. In short, IWFMFTC serves as a handbook for the would-be flipper, providing guidelines, exercises, and tips along the way.

Why should you try this book? Professional development means more than staying current in one’s chosen discipline. The complete instructor needs a familiarity with current trends in higher education as well as advances in technology. ITWMFTC offers a quick introduction to that very crossroads. It’s the kind of book Poe would have liked as it can be read in a single session, but it can also be the academic equivalent of power bars, providing energizing snacks at key moments.

Feast or munch—it’s your choice.

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Authors

author Hal BlythePh.D Hal Blythe writes literary criticism to mystery stories. In addition to the eleven books he’s published with New Forums, Hal has collaborated on four books on a variety of subjects, over 1000 pieces of fiction/nonfiction, and a host of television scripts and interactive mysteries performed by their repertory company. He is currently co-director of the Teaching and Learning Center for Eastern Kentucky University. Meet Hal Blythe.

Russell CarpenterDr. Russell Carpenter is director of the Noel Studio for Academic Creativity and Program Director of the Minor in Applied Creative Thinking at Eastern Kentucky University. He is also Assistant Professor of English. Dr. Carpenter has published on the topic of creative thinking, among other areas, including two texts by New Forums Press. In addition, he has taught courses in creative thinking in EKU’s Minor in Applied Creative Thinking, which was featured in the New York Times in February 2014. Meet Russell.

Author Charlie Sweet EKUCharlie Sweet is currently Co-Director of the Teaching & Learning Center (2007+) at Eastern Kentucky University. Before going over to the dark side of administration, for 37 years he taught American Lit and Creative Writing in EKU’s Department of English & Theatre, where he also served as chair (2003-2006). Collabo-writing with Hal Blythe, he has published well over 1000 items, including 15 books; of his 11 books with New Forums. Meet Charlie.

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What Adult Swim Teaches Us about Creative Thinking

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For those not in the know, Adult Swim is not that time period down at your local Y when everyone younger than 18 is cleared from the pool. Instead, Adult Swim is a channel that replaces the Cartoon Network at night. What’s remarkable about this channel (no, not it’s juvenile humor) is that while viewership among 18-34-year-olds has declined this past year, Adult Swim, with its cartoon-laden lineup, ranks number one with this age group and has for the past ten years with this “toons for millennials” formula.

Why such success? According to an article in our favorite newspaper, The Wall Street Journal, Adult Swim has mastered the process of “How To Run a Creative Hothouse” (13 March 2015). “The creative freedom it offers is also attracting talent it couldn’t otherwise afford” (D1). In contrast to over-controlling and layered network hierarchies, Adult Swim employs fewer executives, discovers creative people, then backs off and allows them to exhibit their creativity.

In essence, Mike Lazzo, creative chief at Adult Swim, allows his creators to enter the pool, and it’s sink or Adult Swim. His mentor at TBS, Ted Turner, Lazzo recalls, used a different metaphor to respond to employee proposals: “here’s your rope (enough to hang you or get your idea off the ground)(D2). To develop the creative hothouse that is Adult Swim, Lazzo also developed six guidelines for successful creative thinking:

  • “Don’t swing for the fence.” According to Lazzo, the financial pressure to succeed degrades creative thinking into its most conservative ideas. He wishes to encourage risk, believing “If we purely by luck stumble into something good, we’ll feed it” (D2).
  • “Do be humble.” When working in collaboration, Lazzo believes egos have to be diffused. One of his favorite methods is humor.
  • “Don’t pretend you like something when you don’t.” While brainstorming necessitates letting ideas, even bad ones, live for a while, Lazzo knows that eventually an honest assessment is needed, even if it’s blunt. Furthermore, creative minds don’t need to be constantly told how good they are.
  • “Don’t get hung up on hierarchy and protocol.” Ideas can come from anyone. Assess the idea, not the creator. Ideas from the bottom can be just as valuable as those from the top.
  • “Do trust creators who are super passionate about an idea, even if you have misgivings about it.” As we point out in Achieving Excellence in Teaching (2014), passion remains the disposition most needed by a teacher, and, according to Lazzo, the same seems true for creators. Passion is intimately associated with believability and trust.
  • “Do shield creators from other suits.” Creators, Lazzo finds, don’t need to know exactly what others in power think of their creations. All creators function well in sandboxes.

As we note in Lazzo’s fifth guideline, Lazzo’s advice can be effectively applied to other fields, especially teaching. In fact, his comments and guidelines fit into creative pedagogy quite well:

  • Encourage risk. Allow students to explore unchartered waters without immediately providing advice. Reward baby steps.
  • Model ego removal. Sometimes in discussions students arrive at remarkable insights and even idea glimmers that the instructors may not have thought about. Show students how to combine your idea with theirs without ownership tags attached to the ideas.
  • Tell the truth. After developing an environment that allows for novel ideas to come out, when it comes time for the useful or assessment phase, the instructor should offer candid comments. Encourage idea generation, but discourage less than truthful evaluations of those ideas.
  • Be passionate. Passion not only sells ideas, but the entire person as well as the creative process and product. If instructors aren’t passionate about what they profess, how can they avoid a roomful of Negative Nells and Debbie Downers?

In short, creative instructors and instructors of creative thinking can take “swimming” lessons from a variety of sources.

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Russell CarpenterDr. Russell Carpenter is director of the Noel Studio for Academic Creativity and Program Director of the Minor in Applied Creative Thinking at Eastern Kentucky University. He is also Assistant Professor of English. Dr. Carpenter has published on the topic of creative thinking, among other areas, including two texts by New Forums Press. In addition, he has taught courses in creative thinking in EKU’s Minor in Applied Creative Thinking, which was featured in the New York Times in February 2014. Meet Russell.

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Resources for Families and Children of Veterans

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There a lack of services for the families of veterans. The majority of existing, established services are aimed at veterans and even these, as has been proven, are insufficient. They Were Families: How War Comes Home is being developed to bridge this chasm. In the meanwhile some external outlets can be recommended and I can provide enormous encouragement for how to cultivate internal respite, a process to taking time for oneself to heal. To find resources where you are there is a requirement for quiet space and sufficient time to sort through your feelings and identify your specific needs and those of your family members. You may well need an ally in this process such as a friend, counselor, therapist or spiritual mentor. This is precisely what respite will provide. Internal resources of creativity evolve when you are safe to be creative, expressive; and let your feelings have safe outlet. Churches, spiritual and religious organizations frequently have programs to develop creative outlets as do local community colleges, recreation centers and educational institutions. Individual counselors can sometimes help you network what may seem like the daunting challenge of reaching out for help. Future blogs will identify specific resources that you can apply individually or in groups that you may join or perhaps even create in your local area. HigherEd updates I also want to refer readers to Veterans Families United, an organization I helped to found with Cynde Collins-Clark, LPC, and the mother of OIF veteran Joe Collins. Joe has written a brochure that is available from VFU that prepares both partners and veterans for the PTSD/combat shock experience (The Endless Journey Home). The booklet is available from VFU. VFU has the express purpose of supporting the families of veterans. This organization can help you wade through the steps of getting support from, for instance, the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs. Cynde Collins-Clark and I have developed a new vision of transition that includes families that is presented in They Were Families: How War Comes Home (New Forums Press, 2016). Another organization that I recommend is Soldier’s Heart developed by my friend and colleague Ed Tick and his wife Kate Dahlstadt. Soldier’s Heart addresses the emotional, moral and spiritual wounds of veterans and their family members through workshops and literature. Workshops are held throughout the country and are themselves experiences of respite. Partners of veterans are speaking out in a variety of ways. They are breaking the silence and ending the shame that is not theirs through blogs and by writing books and articles. Websites appear that sponsor these outlets such as the Family of a Vet blog. This site originated when the partner of a veteran with PTSD and TBI (traumatic brain injury) decided to reach out and create a forum for life after combat. Talking to Warriors

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PhD Stephanie MinesDr. Stephanie Mines is a psychologist whose unique understanding comes from her academic research as well as her extensive work in the field. Her stories of personal transformation have led many listeners to become deeply committed to the healing journey. Dr. Mines understands shock from every conceivable perspective. She has investigated it as a survivor, a professional, a healthcare provider, and as a trainer of staffs of institutions and agencies.Meet Stephanie.

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It’s All in The Details

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According to popular lore, the devil is in the details. Architect Ludwig Mies van der Rohe believes “God is in the details.” As for us, creativity is in the details, and by details, we mean paying attention to and utilizing little things.

In earlier posts, for instance, we’ve pointed out how mere walking can aid creative thinking (the opening paragraph to this post was written in Charlie’s head while he was ambling home for lunch). In our Introduction to Applied Creative Thinking (2012) and Teaching Applied Creative Thinking (2013) we’ve noted how the color blue, a 72-degree temperature inside, and even placing a problem in your head just before you fall asleep can all contribute to enhanced creative moments.

Other researchers into creative thinking have discovered that the little details in how you think can have an effect. Barsalou (2008) found that when you are seated, arm flexion (vs. arm extension) can increase insights and idea generation. Interestingly, as many people think creatively when they are about to fall asleep, Hao, Yuan, Hu, and Grabner (2014) demonstrated that “arm flexion and arm extension in the lying body position exerted effects on AUT [Alternative Uses Task] performance in a converse pattern compared to that in a seated body position.” Ding, Tang, Tang, and Posner (2014) posit that “creative performance on the divergent thinking task and emotion were better following IBMT [Integrative Body Mind Training] than RT [Relaxation Training].” These researchers suggest that this improvement in creative thinking can be accomplished with three hours of IBMT training (seven 30-minute sessions), and, yes, we did the mat–and the time doesn’t quite add up (we pay attention to details).

Knight and Baer (2014) figured out that brainstorming groups that stood (vs. sitting in chairs) produced more creativity and were less apt to simply defend their own turf. In terms of our nifty nine applied creative thinking strategies, these collaborators displayed facility with perception shift. In Teaching Applied Creative Thinking, we also stressed the need for the thinker’s motion.  Maybe Rodin’s famous thinker (“Le Penseur”) would have displayed more creative thinking had he been pacing (“Le Promenader”?), or maybe Ionesco’s seemingly unfathomable The Chairs was actually a Theater of the Absurd metaphor for the dangers of prolonged sitting.  In any case, Knight and Baer’s research seems consistent with Oppezzo and Schwartz (2014) that the motion of walking boosts ideation at the moment and immediately after.

Can all these details somehow be synthesized?  At least one thing becomes more obvious—the traditional classroom arrangement is probably not the best way to boost creativity in students. Two, the body-mind connection needs greater exploration.

By the way, were you sitting still the whole time you read this post?

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author Hal BlythePh.D Hal Blythe writes literary criticism to mystery stories. In addition to the eleven books he’s published with New Forums, Hal has collaborated on four books on a variety of subjects, over 1000 pieces of fiction/nonfiction, and a host of television scripts and interactive mysteries performed by their repertory company. He is currently co-director of the Teaching and Learning Center for Eastern Kentucky University. Meet Hal Blythe.

 

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An Introduction to Sabbaticals 101

Introduction to Sabbaticals

The word sabbatical, from the Latin sabbaticus, Greek sabbatikos, and Hebrew Shabbat, literally means  “ceasing.” Of course, for academics, a sabbatical rarely means the complete cessation of work. While they are given the opportunity to let their home professional fields lie fallow for a year or so every seven years, sabbatical takers often use the opportunity of a break from their normal routine to teach, research, write, or practice medicine in some other region of the globe. And many don’t travel alone.

A Privilege

My husband always reminds me that a sabbatical is “a privilege, not a right.” Yet I can’t help planning for the next one, hoping he’ll be granted another of these perks of academic life. Not everyone takes advantage of these opportunities, though. Too many professors fear the upheaval to their homes and families, and just stay put. But sometimes all they needed was a little advice – information that could change a potentially stressful, unpleasant situation into an enjoyable and memorable adventure.

After five overseas sabbaticals and exchanges, I’ve found what works — and what doesn’t. Through the years I’ve made lists, compiled notes, and consulted other sabbatical veterans. Friends who were planning such a year themselves began asking me about sabbatical preparations, living abroad, and re-entering normal life. I soon realized I had information that could help both novice and more experienced sabbatical-takers, and thus began the seeds of a book I wrote to help others: Sabbaticals 101 — A Practical Guide for Academics and Their Families.

Of course, my suggestions in the book are not only for academics. Anyone who sojourns for an extended period can benefit from the tips and resources assembled between these covers. I offer this to you as advice from a friend who’s been there.

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DLimg2So whether you are planning your first or fourth sabbatical, travelling across the world or just settling into a city nearby, I hope you read this book first! Also, read/download The Tenants’ Guide template here. It will be invaluable in planning for your sabbatical!

Happy travels!

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Nancy Matthews is a freelance travel writer and the mother of two sons. Born and raised on the U.S. west coast, she married a Canadian statistics professor and has lived in the Great White North ever since. Thanks to her husband’s sabbaticals, she has had the opportunity to experience life in various corners of the world. Their first sabbatical was in London and Berne, Switzerland, followed by an exchange in Newcastle, NSW, Australia. They loved life Down Under so much, they returned for two more sabbaticals in the same location. Another special highlight was a year spent in Oxford, England, where they homeschooled their boys. Nancy coordinates a program at the University of Waterloo for the spouses of international students, and is a member of UW’s International Student Office orientation team. She and her family call Kitchener, Ontario, home when they’re not exploring the world

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How to Help War Veterans Struggling with Emotional Numbing

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“There is quiet. The quiet when he was gone, away in Afghanistan. Or this new quiet, now, now that he is home.”
— Amalie Flynn, Wife and War

Silence has multiple textures just as emotional numbing is not only one thing. We have known about emotional numbing for as long as we have known about war, but it is only recently that it is being openly discussed. This, in itself, is a victory.

When my father came home from war no one said anything. Silence was considered the protective shield but it protected no one. Violence, fear and terror, the very things my father had lived with during his service, inhabited our home and as a youngster I was left with the impossible task of making sense of it. Everyone was too shocked to speak. This is what compels me to write about emotional numbing. I want to build a fire of awakening so that adults will find avenues of communication, even when they seem to be invisible.

The Need for a Mutual Language

The gap between what soldiers experience and what a families experience during deployment becomes a widening chasm, especially when deployments are repeated. We need to discover a mutual language so that people who were once so intimate can restore their ability to dialogue. Though everyone is different the core love that brought them together is the same; it is still alive. That is the heat source we need.

Emotional numbing may actually be an inability to find words to match experiences. Family members can be struggling with this as much as veterans. Through the process of daily living we can maximize our opportunities to discern, observe, and bear witness at home in a much more comprehensive way than any well-meaning outsider. Even experts with the best of intentions do not have the insight that family members can gain into the unique characteristics of each individual living with how war comes home.

Bearing witness means not letting the fear of silence outweigh awareness. Be a witness to the dynamics between you and your veteran, or between a veteran and family members. Observe without analysis or even interpretation. Observe yourself as well as others. Ask yourself if there is truly an absence of feeling or an absence of language? The distinction is important. It will shape the pace and method of recovery.

Struggling to Find Words

If the issue is a struggle to find words, your greatest ally is love-infused spaciousness and patience. Trauma pioneer Dr. Henry Krystal called this condition, which I would say is an aspect of shock:  alexitheymia. Indeed there is not language to express the magnitude of horror that combat survivors have seen and experienced. Because heretofore silence was the singular, dominant tool for the enormity of war experience, we have few models for expression. We all deserve compassion and time to find our words, and the encouragement that they are worth waiting for.

On the other hand, there may actually be an absence or a reduction of, such as a less or no enjoyment in activities that were once pleasurable. It is worthwhile to note here the difference between emotional numbing and depression. Depression includes disinterest, exhaustion and no motivation. Emotional numbing is different. It is a blunted sense of feeling, as if someone had turned the sound volume down very low. One can still be motivated and functional; there is just a limited access to feeling. This is a form of avoidance and self-protection that may, for the time being, be necessary.

There is no specific treatment for emotional numbing and no medication for it. However if the cause is difficulty finding words family members can help melt the ice in a variety of ways such as speaking without expectation, inviting participation without demanding it and encouraging honest exchange while giving the individual the space they need to find their way. Think of what happens when your arm or leg becomes numb. If you try to evoke movement from it too quickly the limb will crumble under you. If you gently coax it back to its former resilience, it will respond by remembering what it is like to be fully alive.

Emotional numbing with an absence of feeling has been identified by Dr. Frank Ochberg as having the characteristics of high anxiety and low mood. The low volume on feeling does not apply to anxiety. In fact, there may be high anxiety specifically because of the lack of feeling.  In this case, mirroring language really helps, like: “Even though you seem remote, I can sense that you care.” These reassuring statements can jumpstart the meltdown.

Creating Conditions to Help

Combat veterans may still be going through check-points at home for a long time before they cross the check-point that tells them that finally they are safe. Regardless of the nature of the emotional numbing there are many ways that families can create conditions to help the glacial melt occur incrementally so that flooding is avoided. These include warm and non-intrusive gatherings (no probing questions), sharing in spiritual practices like prayer, enjoying music and fun together, hikes in nature and healthy exercise.

Emotional numbing claims families just as combat claims lives. Amalie Flynn’s book Wife and War portrays an authentic, organic defrosting process with unflinching honesty. We have the power in our own homes, through our love and awareness, to fill in the chasm that separates soldiers from those who have not seen combat and to reach out to each other from the heart of compassion and in the spirit of continuity. I do not have a brilliant one-size-fits-all formula to make this happen but I do have skillful means to access presence, faith and love. I believe that for those of us blessed to be alive and together, we can build the capacity to find connection again.

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PhD Stephanie MinesDr. Stephanie Mines is a psychologist whose unique understanding comes from her academic research as well as her extensive work in the field. Her stories of personal transformation have led many listeners to become deeply committed to the healing journey. Dr. Mines understands shock from every conceivable perspective. She has investigated it as a survivor, a professional, a healthcare provider, and as a trainer of staffs of institutions and agencies. Meet Stephanie.

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Advice for Creative Writers

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It is better to write a bad short story than to have a good idea for a short story that you never write.

Most of our posts tell a story, give a quote, or start with a hook to interest readers, but this time we’re doing something different. This time the one-sentence first paragraph contains the fundamental and powerful truth we want to talk about. Actually, to refine the point, we’re focused on the relationship between creativity and doing.

In fact, look at some of our recent titles for New Forums—Introduction to Applied Creative Thinking (2012) and Teaching Applied Creative Thinking (2013). Both titles stress Bloom’s higher-order skill of application—i.e., doing something. Even the subtitle of our recent Options (2014)—Constructing Your House of Fiction—emphasizes the need for action; fiction, like knowledge, is built through the application of many concepts.

The three of us have recently been reading Tom Kelley’s The Ten Faces of Innovation, a book Rusty is using as his main text this semester in his CRE 201 Creativity and Innovation course. Innovation, a common term in business, is distinguished from creativity because the former demands some stage of product. In fact, as Kelley affirms, “All good working definitions of innovation pair ideas with action” (6). Rusty will guide his students through the various stages of innovation, but in the end he will demand they develop a product.

One of our favorite stories from over forty years of teaching creative writing involves a student we will always refer to as Gentle Ben. Ben was a master of story concepts. Each week he would stop by the office or catch us before or after class to tell us about this great idea he had for his next story. Unfortunately, in the context of the course, Ben’s next story would have been his first. As great as he was coming up with concepts, he was as bad setting them down on paper.

If we could get his permission, we would put Ben’s picture on a poster with the caption “It is better to write a bad short story than to have a good idea for a short story you never write.”

Even a bad short story is a product you can do something with. Getting the concept out of your head and getting it on paper gives the writer a perspective. The getting it down process is much like penciling in a guess on a crossword puzzle. You can’t tell what words you will be able to see as viable crosses until you pencil in a possible answer. Once you have your story idea at least partially living on paper, you are able to critique it. Just as import often, somebody else can critique it. All those years ago we could tell Ben we liked his ideas, but we could never truly judge the idea as story until it was in print.

In The Ten Faces of Innovation, Kelley discusses the idea of prototyping, of making even a crude model for your innovative product. Kelley even provides the example of a colleague who prototyped a new surgical tool with a whiteboard marker, a film canister, a clothes pin and some tape, and executives of a surgical company were told to “squint”—“to ignore the surface detail and just look at the overall shape of then idea” (47). However, you can only squint when you have something to squint at—squinting at an idea is difficult at best.

So, whether your innovative idea is a creative business product or creative writing, prototype it. Right now Hal and Charlie are part of a writing group trying tom produce a 400-page collabo-novel, but how did that product begin? Each of the five writers created one scene involving one character trying to obtain a goal in one place, Clement County, Kentucky. The novel quickly got past five chapter ones because we had something to build on. Interestingly none of them original chapter ones is still chapter one—we had to write two prequels to our openings that now serve as Chapter I and Chapter II.

But we couldn’t have done it without our crude prototypes of Chapter I. Wicked Design may turn out to be a bad book, but it wouldn’t have become a book at all without a foundation of words in the form of five chapters.

Go forth and do.

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Author

Author Charlie Sweet EKUCharlie Sweet is currently Co-Director of the Teaching & Learning Center (2007+) at Eastern Kentucky University. Before going over to the dark side of administration, for 37 years he taught American Lit and Creative Writing in EKU’s Department of English & Theatre, where he also served as chair (2003-2006). Collabo-writing with Hal Blythe, he has published well over 1000 items, including 15 books; of his 11 books with New Forums. Meet Charlie.

 

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